So this weeks episode of The Millionaire Matchmaker brought up a very interesting question:
While most of us claim to date outside our race the reality is that most seem to hesitate to bring that person home to mother, and thus we don't see ourselves in a serious relationship or marrying that person of another color. And I think that goes both ways, black and white.
Here's a break down of the episode:
Trevor from the Midwest comes to LA to get Patti's help finding a mate. He wants a Christian All-American girl etc. When he makes a comment stating, "I've never even had a serious conversation with a black woman before." Patti probes further and finds out he comes from an exclusively all-white, Republican, small town so she probes to see if we would ever date outside his race.
He is hesitant but decides not to be too close minded.
At the mixer Patti puts a beautiful African American woman in his path to see what he would do. Surprisingly, he feels chemistry. Picks her and another blond.
When it all came down to it he picked the blond and asked her if he could fly her to his hometown.
I thought, would he have wanted to fly that black girl out to the Midwest? Couldn't he foresee that with the black girl things would have been far more complicated due to race?
Not to say that African Americans are any more accepting. I've dated a white guy myself, but was to afraid to introduce him to my family.
What do you think? Have you ever seriously dated someone of another race?
My past relationship was cross cultural and we lasted for over 3 years. I am also the product of a cross cultural marraige haha. as a result i tend to be alot more open about topics like this. I can never really understand the predjudices people hold against another culture or "race" as you put it. there really is no sense or justice about it really. People try to justify it anyway they can, but if they listen to themselves it doesnt make sense.
ReplyDeletethanks for your honesty gigi. I think people accept other races more comfortably from a distance sometimes, but the true challenge is when things get up close and personal, as with relationships. I think that's the true challenge of overcoming race issues, because that's makes it much harder.
ReplyDeleteYea I agree, one has to drop all predjudices for another to get into an intimate relationship, or there just no way it'l work out
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